Fads are a waste of time.
(And… YES, I’m going to include juice fasts in this too.)
Unless, you’d like to invest in learning what to not do, how to not treat your body, and how to not eat… then a fad is perfect!
On some level, any time you search for, and then invest in a fad, you’re looking for a quick fix and a way to remove responsibility, choices or decisions from your own healing journey.
I want you to feel freedom + harmony in your skin, I know with every bone in my body that the only way you will find this is when you let go of the fads, and the need to keep searching.
In my Emotional Harmony Course we dive into this concept on a deep-
er level, but the main concept you need to grasp is this:
You don’t need to search for the answers anymore.
Everything you need is already inside of you. Fads? They make you forget this.
Fads make you feel like a fraud.
Like you’ll only count for something if you can deprive yourself for long enough, follow a crazy meal plan or take a million supplements.
Most clients who come to see me when they’ve been stressing about
their bodies me the same thing: I’ve tried everything.
Me too lovely one… me too.
Did all these crazy diets and fads work to begin with? Sure, sometimes.
Did they stop working sooner or later?
Did they make you feel crazy, restricted, deprived and like the biggest failure on the planet?
When you invest in a fad, you’re saying to yourself: I’m not smart enough, or strong enough, or brave enough to make decisions on my own. I need someone else to tell me what to eat, when to eat it, and how much of it to eat. I need someone else to take my pain away be- cause I can’t do it myself, and I’m confused, overwhelmed and scared.
It’s okay for you to feel all of those things – I have felt them too.
But I have also felt the pain of doing a fad, feeling ecstatic when I think I’ve finally found the answer, and then realising it was in fact, all a bad dream.
An incredibly unsustainable bad dream.
The most intense fad I ever did was in my early 20s.
It was basically a very low calorie diet, with scarily low amounts of healthy fats and carbs, apparently created by a doctor (who I could never find much information on and who seemed very out of reach).
On this diet, once you reached your ideal weight (calculated with a body weight calculator and no common sense), you were allowed to
move into the re-feeding stage. (For me, this ‘ideal weight’ took about
6-7 weeks to reach, because of how little food I was allowed to eat.) Wait, did you get that?
Once I reached my pre-calculated ideal weight, I was allowed to re- feed my body.
Sounds very healthy, right?
In this phase I was given very exact amounts of certain foods, which had been prohibited until then, and a very strict plan that told me when I was allowed to eat them.
If I messed up this carefully constructed re-feeding plan up and ate too many grams of say… pumpkin or carrot, I could do a 3-day reset… and lose all the weight (I mean, water!) Id put on because I ate too much pumpkin or carrot.
Uh-huh. That’s healthy, right?
This was probably the best and worst point of my body disharmony journey thus far.
Here I thought I had the tools to finally find freedom in my own skin,
but I had so many more enemies that were holding me back. Shall I list them?
Enemy #1: Restriction
The list of foods I wasn’t allowed to eat on this diet was longer, and more deliciously satisfying than anything on the list of foods I was al- lowed to eat. This sucked on many levels.
Not only this, but I had to restrict exercise to anything apart from a light walk, and eating out (even at a friend’s house) was made almost impossible because I had to weigh every gram of my food.
In the beginning, not exercising felt quite fun, because I had always placed so much importance on exercise as weight loss tool only (we go into this further in a later section).
I remember going to my last session with my personal trainer before starting this diet and excitedly letting him know I had to take a break from our sessions because of this special, new, incredible diet I was going on.
After a few weeks of no exercise though, I started to crave it. But on so little food, even light Pilates or yoga left me feeling weak and dizzy. I was starving myself, and I thought I was helping myself.
I also started to get injuries. My knees started to feel inflamed and painful and I wasn’t allowed to take more than 1 capsule of fish oil a day (they counted them as healthy fats) or up my food-based healthy fats. I used to have to ice my knees at night.
Then, after trying not to put too much pressure on my right knee (which felt worse), I wound up with a bursitis in my left hip because I wasn’t putting equal pressure on both legs.
Über, super fun times.
(This injury still flares up now if I’m not careful, even though I’m living
in body freedom.)
Exercise, eating out with friends, and just… eating healthy foods that make you feel good is a huge part of living in harmony with your body.
Restriction? Not so much.
Enemy #2: Deprivation
See Enemy #1. Deprivation will make you crazy. It forces you to believe you are not worthy, and that you shouldn’t be trusted with your own choices.
When in actual fact, if you allowed yourself to make choices, such as to eat those foods you deprive yourself of so often, those ‘naughty foods’ would lose their golden glow and become ‘normal’ and you wouldn’t crave them so much. True story.
Enemy #3: Fear
When you feel restricted and deprived, there’s no room for love and joy.
Only fear. Lots of fear.
I was scared to eat more than my daily quota of strictly weighed food, and sometimes I even felt scared to eat the daily quota, thinking that if I ate less, would I speed up my progress even more?
(The answer to that question would be… no. Eating too little actual- ly slows your metabolism down, and causes you to lose lean muscle mass, making weight maintenance even harder in the long run.)
Enemy #4: Low self-worth
Because if you know how to starve yourself for 3 days and you don’t do it properly or you feel unhappy doing it, you suck. #notfunny
Enemy #5: Comparison & Judgment
Another awful enemy is comparison (and again, we talk about this more deeply in an upcoming section.)
When I was on this diet, I compared myself to the people who had done it before me. There was this forum we all chatted on (oh gosh, weight loss forums; is there anything nastier?).
I felt judged and berated, and would wonder why someone else had gotten to their goal faster than me. Not only did I compare myself to others, but – and this was the worst bit for me – I would compare my- self to my self-created ideal ‘potential’. I had this vision in my head of what I should look like, and if I didn’t live up to that, I sucked.
Basically, this diet left me with a ton of enemies that I had to work to release for years afterwards.
Over the years (before and after this crazy diet) there were times when I started to ‘crave’ (for lack of a better word) a fad.
I would start to feel icky, and uncomfortable in my skin, and confused about how to listen to my body.
I would start searching. I might Google things like how to lose weight
or a healthy diet for weight loss.
This kind of searching never made me feel good; and sometimes it al- most started the vicious cycle of fad dieting all over again.
I want you to release the perceived need for a fad diet, so throughout this course, you’ll work on acknowledging and releasing your own en- emies too.
In fact, lets start now.
F OOD FOR THOUGHT: (answer one or two of these the https://thedetoxdiva.slack.com #thesociety group for extra credit!)
• The fad diets I’ve tried include:
• They worked in the beginning because:
• Then they stopped working because:
• These fad diets created enemies for me, such as and
• Those enemies blocked me from and:
• I felt so controlled by these ‘enemies’ because:
• I can let these enemies go by:
• But when I let them go, I know I’ll:
• I know I don’t need a fad diet because:
The pre-fad checklist
This checklist is a prerequisite for any new fads (including juice fasts)
you may decide to do:
• Why am I doing this?
• What’s the main concept or premise in this fad?
• Why do I feel unable to implement this concept on my own?
• What will I get out of the fad?
• Does it provide long-term benefits?
• Be honest: does this feel like a quick fix in any way?
• What does my intuition tell me to do?
• If I don’t do this fad, what can I do instead?
You got this!